It’s difficult to talk about problematic sexual behaviors.
As a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, I am always looking for tools to help constructive discussions happen.
I want to share with you a free two part video made by The Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH) that can help you learn about and talk about sexual addiction and hypersexual disorder.
Mending A Shattered Heart: A Guide For Partners of Sex Addicts, Second Edition edited by Stefanie Carnes, PhD is a rich resource for partners of sex addicts needing information and guidance to help them deal with their overwhelming and traumatizing situations.
Dr Stefanie Carnes did an audio interview with Becky Papp discussing the updated book and some of the issues facing partners of sex addicts and their families. You can listen to the interview at
What are the 6 Best Gifts Sex Addicts can give their Partners?
Not diamonds or gold. Not cruises or luxuries.
The best presents sex addicts can give their partners are actually gifts for the sex addicts themselves as well as their partners. They are:
Chris Lee’s November 25, 2011 Newsweek article “The Sex Addiction Epidemic“and MSNBC interview describe the destructiveness of sex addiction.
It wrecks marriages, destroys careers, and saps self-worth. Yet Americans are being diagnosed as sex addicts in record numbers. Inside an epidemic.
His description of the ravages of sex addiction matches my experience as a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist working with people with problematic sexual behaviors – both men and women – and their partners.
The silence has been deafening. When the drama of Anthony Weiner’s Cybersex Sexting Scandal was unfolding, we saw daily updates and images. Denial…deception…acknowledgement…resignation from his job. The questions were continuous. What will Anthony Weiner’s wife Huma Abedin do? Will she stay or go?
Since then there has been silence. There have been occasional sightings
I don’t know Anthony Weiner but his sexting scandal is a familiar story. I am a psychotherapist working with individuals and couples whose lives are damaged by cybersex affairs.
From outside appearances, the man (or woman) seems to be doing well and even excelling. Successful at work. Married or committed relationship. Baby on the way.
Then suddenly the truth comes out and
I was interviewed by Jane Pribek for an article in the Wisconsin Law Journal on the topic of Sex Addiction. I appreciate the Wisconsin Law Journal’s interest in educating lawyers about this complex subject that they are encountering in their legal practices and sharing the perspectives of attorneys who have already faced the problems
Partners of Sex Addicts have specific treatment needs to help them deal with the trauma, distress and complications of being a partner of a sexually compulsive person. In this upcoming workshop in Houston, Texas on April 30, 2011, partners of sex addicts will receive not only information and support but also an opportunity to share
You are the partner of a sex addict – wife, girlfriend, husband, boyfriend. Your spouse is or is not in a recovery program. Either situation is stressful.
You fear relapse. You experience grief and anger. You are trying to put together the pieces of your life. Then the holiday season approaches. Vacation. Time off. Family.
You are a Sex Addict in Recovery. Good for you. You are working a solid recovery program including therapy, 12 Step groups, a sponsor and a supportive community. You are making progress. Sober on your inner circle behaviors. Taking care of yourself and by extension your partner and family.
Here comes December. Holidays. Vacation. Family.